“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves”
A popular saying goes “Acceptance is the antidote to all our problems” and it didn’t lie. On the journey to freedom from ourselves, acceptance may be one of the most challenging steps we would have to take. And this is because it’s easy to feel like ‘accepting’ is downplaying what we did to ourselves and the people around us. Meanwhile, the exact opposite is the case in recovery. Acceptance is overcoming and practicing this principle is defeating the past to make room for a better future. This is why acceptance is an never ending path on our journey to complete freedom from active addiction.
At TalkmanTalk, we can show others how to break free from their pain, and how to change their situation or condition, however, our program only works for those who are truly ready for change. The change we seek begins with us accepting first of all that we are addicts. Once we accept who we are we can then work towards who we want to become. Many people will remain in bondage to themselves because it takes a lot of work and discipline to practice the principles for recovery.
To gain freedom from ourselves and complete mastery over active addictions we have to be proactive daily. We have to constantly practice. Maintaining freedom and a good mental health requires daily maintenance. To avoid going back to denying reality, I do a personal moral inventory every day, I check my thoughts, I check my motives, I check the words that I speak. That way I know when I’m in line with my recovery goals and I can maintain my path to progress.
On the journey to freedom from addiction, YOU come first. We have to accept ourselves as we are before we can even accept others. Accepting ourselves makes accepting people easy. When we fail to accept people, we are trying to control them, accepting peoples’ decisions and choices relieves us of unnecessary pressure.
How do hunters catch monkeys? They put coconut in a trap, the monkey then reaches in there to grab the coconut. With the monkeys’ fist around the coconut, he can’t get his arm out of the trap. If the monkey simply lets go of the coconut, he can free himself from the trap and get his arm through the hole again. Letting go of the coconut will prevent the monkey from getting captured when the hunters come. When we don’t let go of our addictive patterns and mindsets, the past, and its mistakes, we will be captured by grief, pain, depression, unhappiness. All of these can take us back to square one on our recovery journey. The secret is to just let go. Not because we agree with what our addictions has led to but because we accept that we can’t change this truthful past, so we will do better.
We can’t achieve progress in anything with negativity and addiction recovery is not exempted. We must maintain a positive attitude daily, tell ourselves we can do this one day at a time, yes, we’ve made mistakes, yes, we went back a couple of times but we’re ready again. You can do this! When things seem shaky, this positive attitude is what gets us through and puts us back on track.
Practicing acceptance means, letting go constantly (people’s mistakes and ours), accepting ourselves daily, and staying positive always! That’s how freedom from our addiction is maintained.