The hurt we cause for ourselves during active addiction is just one side of the coin, the other side is the hurt we caused other people during that time. We simply cannot overlook the emotional and psychological effect our addiction had on the people who love us.
“Some of the things I did to my grandparents when I was under the influence were hurtful, but they always welcomed me home with open arms with my Nana saying, “I just glad you’re alive”. Both had passed away by the time I made it through a successful recovery program.”
We owe it to the people who stood by us to attempt making amends in our pursuit to live a life free from guilt and sadness. After we have forgiven ourselves, then we can go on and receive the forgiveness of others.
The 4 Why’s
Forgiveness from others brings peace
Peace is an extremely important factor we all need to go through in life. Our mental, physical and emotional health suffers when we do not have peace. The thought of the things that we did to others when we were under the influence will simply continue to hunt them and us both. By seeking forgiveness, we open the door to permanent peace.
Forgiveness from others brings closure
Closure! That’s all we need to carry on with our lives and leave the past behind. Closure doesn’t erase the past, it simply helps us and the people we hurt to live above it.
Our addiction and abuse phase causes us to lose amazing moments we could have had with our family and loved ones. When there’s reconciliation and forgiveness, we get a chance to create new memories, new moments as the past fades into nothingness.
Forgiveness is an act of kindness to ourselves
When we don’t understand and practice forgiveness, we leave ourselves open to being ruled by our shortcomings. When we ask for forgiveness, we are helping our emotions heal, we are preserving our mental health and letting go of all the negative energy that could be detrimental to our overall journey to freedom from ourselves.